Why burn in shame?

IHM had blogged about physical strength of men and women in violent situations which led me another blogger's post about a rape which he had intervened and prevented. One line in his post really upset me. This brave man says that after he resuced the girl and tried to get some women to help her, the girl ran away saying her honour was already being lost and she dint want to lose it totally.

I am unable to understand why women feel ashamed when they get teased, molested or raped. It is definetly not their fault so that removes the guilt factor. They possibly cant do anythign to provoke a rapist/ eve teaser to attack them, they are going to do it anyway. And most of the times the woman tries to escape the situtation to the best of her abilities, which is obvious. So now why would a woman feel ashamed? Some go to the extent of committing suicide. And it is a well known fact that that in certain Indian villages, the punishment for a rapist is to marry the woman he rapes. Pray, who is being punished here? Love a woman, she doesnt pay heed to you? Just rape her and she is yours! Wonderful.

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Zepheratic said…
It's so scary the means to certian ends that some societys deem appropiate. I say this with reckless abandon but I often wander if some of the women who "run" from such an event are lacking confidence, independence, or insecurities from other events in life. Then again it could be a "fight or flight" responce in which the "flight"from the situation only to realize the effects of PTSD which can lead to depression and suicide. It is deeply sick the thought of having to be married to someone who has so blatenly broken you. So sad.
9:02 PM
A said…
Rightly said, Zepheratic. In comparison with the women belonging to the developed nations, the ones in the developing nations, in general, take to flight as it is seen as an more effective option. Fighting back is often viewed as acting beyond ones means.

Though violent incidents against women occur in all parts of the world, in some countries like India, a woman is held responsible for provoking a rapist and also made to feel ashamed for being a victim in such incidents!
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